The Advance

Issue date: 2/4/10 Section: Opinion

McLovin:
Hello everyone. Today's focus is going to be on support. It is very under appreciated how important support is within a relationship.
Support in a relationship goes so far these days. Not only for the health of a relationship, but for the sole benefit of the beneficiary, does the value of good support really matter.
Woman, in particular, need tremendous support from their partner in a relationship. It is more important to her that you be a support to her than just provide her with any and everything. Women today are more geared towards being independent and feel as if you do everything then they have no say or input in the relationship.
It is important that you show your girl that she is not in it alone in what ever she sets her heart on. If she has a new job and is working towards and promotion then give her words of encouragement and let her know she will make it. If your girl is a student and is studying, sacrifice a game or two to study with her and quiz her on what she knows so that she ace the next test. If your girl is trying to shed a few pounds then drop that Xbox remote and go walk or jog with her.
These are just a few ways you can show support to your significant other. Support is not only a physical or verbal act. You should also try supporting her emotionally and spiritually. Giving her the confidence she needs to carry on through your support will earn you more trust and love from your girl. She will then realize that she not only has a boyfriend, fiance and a cutie; or husband, but that she also has a best friend that she can come to for anything. Support also builds chemistry and bonds in a relationship. The more time ya'll spend supporting one another, the more time ya'll will be bonding.
The more you guys bond, the closer you two become. It's the little things that matters most fellas. Always remember that.

Lady Love:
Ladies, this week we have an important topic on our plates. One word, support. When it comes to your relationship and your man, support is a main issue that comes to mind. Many of us women need to realize the relationship isn't always just about us, it's about him too.
When he has some new product that he can't wait to get, no matter how stupid it may be or pointless support it, and be just as excited, if not more as he is about it.
This will in turn show him you care about his happiness, even if this materialistic product will only make him happy for a week or two. He talks about his intramural team all the time and how happy he is about competing in it and doing well in a sport he hasn't mastered. Be excited! You should want to show your enthusiasm just because he is excited to share something that means a lot to him with you.
Go to his games, cheer for him, and tell him how well he did out there afterwards. This is what really matters and when it comes down to it shows him you care and support him with anything he puts his heart to.
If you support his new ideas, give him input, always tell him that it's a good idea no matter how ridiculous it might seem at the time your relationships will steer clear of fighting. Let him figure out if something won't work. You don't need to be there to tell him yourself. Show that you are enthusiastic and your heart is really there following him.
Remember, relationships are just as much about being supportive friends as they are about growing together.

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